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Mamamia – I’m Terrified of Having Children

“The idea of having children terrifies me. Truly, on a deep level.”

A 31-year-old married woman has opened her heart in a letter to Mamamia. She says that deep down, she’s uncertain if she should be trying to get pregnant or not.

Read the full article with my suggestions on how to determine whether or not to have children as well as some of the underlying reasons that might be holding you back.

Image Credit: Mamamia


About Jodie

Sydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist + Eating Psychology Specialist, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being. Over the last 20 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private supervision, counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly, Allambie Heights and Frenchs Forest on the Northern Beaches of Sydney. Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!

The Power of Dynamic Eating Psychology™ and Mind Body Nutrition™

EatingpsychologyquoteWhat is dynamic eating psychology™?

Founded by Marc David, Dynamic Eating Psychology™, combines the psychology of eating with the science of mind body nutrition™; it is the latest and most up-to-date approach there is for healing from “weight concerns, emotional eating, binge eating, overeating, body image challenges, endless dieting and a variety of nutrition related health concerns such as digestion, fatigue, mood, immunity and more (Marc David)”

Using an empowering, positive and transformational approach, Dynamic Eating Psychology™ works using techniques and tools from counselling and coaching models, body centered practices, soul-centred and spiritual psychology, archetypal psychologies, positive psychology, cognitive approaches, Health at Every Size (HAES) and more. Dynamic Eating Psychology™ is also firmly grounded in the best of clinical and scientific nutrition, complementary and alternative medicine and mind-body sciences.

Rather than viewing the person as being a problem or having a problem to get rid of, Dynamic Eating Psychology™ views food and body concerns as symptoms that are in much need of depth exploration. Holding a soulful and holistic context, by exploring the complexity of these symptoms, we can learn, grow and transform our relationships with self, others, work, money, pleasure, sexuality, lifestyle, nutrition, search for meaning and fulfillment and so on.

For far too long, we’ve been inundated by negative messages about food, body, weight and diet. We’ve been told that we’re willpower weaklings or that we need more control. The majority of nutrition experts promote vastly different and conflicting advice. The result is that people are confused about what to eat and how to have a happy relationship with food and a healthy metabolism. Eating Psychology Coaches help you rise above nutritional confusion. They’re trained to help you get un-stuck. By eliminating all the “shoulds and shouldn’ts”, their approach focuses on what’s right for your body and your personal style. As you work with an Eating Psychology Coach in this way, food and health issues become a place of exploration. Instead of seeing eating challenges as the enemy, they become opportunities for growth and self-improvement. From here, you’re better able to reach your highest goals (Marc David).”

What is Mind Body Nutrition™?

In Psychology and Nutrition: The Perfect Union, Marc David writes,

“Mind Body Nutrition™ is an exciting new approach that looks at the psycho-physiology of how digestion, assimilation, calorie burning and all the nutritive functions of the body are literally and scientifically impacted by stress, relaxation, thought, emotion, pleasure, our personal story, eating rhythm, eating speed and awareness…. WHAT we eat is half the story of good nutrition. The other half of the story is WHO we are as eaters. Mind Body Nutrition™ provides this all-important missing link to metabolic health.”

What types of food and body concerns are Dynamic Eating Psychology™ and Mind Body Nutrition™ useful for?

Dynamic Eating Psychology™ and Mind Body Nutrition™  are for anyone who struggles with food, body, health and well-being concerns including:

  • Yoyo, fad or chronic dieting
  • Obsession with counting points, calories, fats or proteins
  • Body image and body shame
  • Fat shaming and fat talking to self and others
  • Using food
    • to sooth, numb or squash intolerable feelings
    • in search of transpersonal qualities such as love
    • to punish oneself for not being good enough, thin enough, successful enough…
  • Eating disorders including anorexia, binge eating, bulimia, obesity, orthorexia and EDNOS
  • Splitting and black and white thinking around notions of good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, clean or unclean, lazy or fit and fat or thin
  • A myriad of health and well-being concerns related to the body and diet such as digestion, cancer, fatigue, illnesses and immunity etc

What are the benefits of Dynamic Eating Psychology™ and Mind Body Nutrition™?

Body hate, weight prejudice, restriction of pleasure and tyrannizing ourselves into a certain way of being are old and outdated ways of thinking! Dynamic Eating Psychology™ and Mind Body Nutrition™ can benefit you by:

  • Learning a hopeful, positive, uplifting approach to food and body
  • Exploring what your challenges with food and body are here to teach you
  • Discovering hidden wisdom, secret messages and important connections between food, body and all other areas of your life
  • Learning how to slow-down and listen to your unique body wisdom
  • Healing and transforming your relationship with food and body
  • Changing your perceptions about nutrition and nourishment, exercise and movement
  • Finding out what it is that you are physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually and spiritually hungry for
  • Experiencing a truly holistic approach; body, mind, heart and SOUL!

You will also take away:

  • Strategies and nutrition principles that are doable, sustainable and that yield results
  • Practical techniques and results-oriented psychological tools
  • Clinical nutrition strategies, body-centered practices and mind-body science techniques
  • A depth of understanding about who you are as a unique individual and how to bring out the best in who you are personally and metabolically

Reference: The Institute of the Psychology of Eating: Our Approach

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About Jodie

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Sydney Psychotherapist, Therapeutic Counsellor, Eating Psychology and Soul-Centred Life-Coach, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being. Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.  Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!

Family Feud: The Mother-Daughter Relationship

CLEO Family Feud (600x448)I was recently interviewed by the Chief Sub-Editor of CLEO & DOLLY, Ellie McDonald, for her article Family Feud in the March issue of CLEO Australia (on sale now). Here you can find an edited and updated version of our discussion:

About the importance of a strong mother-daughter relationship and why the daughter needs this as she reaches adulthood…

To achieve and maintain healthy relationships with self and others, we need to have internalised an accepting, unconditionally loving, nurturing and nourishing mother so that we can relate from, and care for ourselves in this way. If we haven’t for whatever reason internalised a nurturing mother, we can get caught in a cycle of searching outside ourselves for others to meet our needs and to affirm our worth in the world.

For most, our relationship with mother is often our first and primary attachment relationship – it is the barometer for all of our future relationships with self, family, friends, colleagues, partners and our children. We are born into her world and this helps shape:

  • our sense of self-identity
  • our feelings, needs and desires and whether they are acceptable or not
  • our self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence
  • our experience of our body, femininity, power and sexuality
  • our capacity for nourishment and self-care
  • our social roles as girls/women and how much space we can take up in the world (e.g. we often use our bodies – fat or thin – to reflect this).

If mother has awareness and has worked at resolving her own identity issues, it is far easier for her to foster the daughter’s separation, autonomy and sense of self. A strong sense of self-identity is essential as we move into young adulthood.

About the negative effects of a strained mother-daughter relationship for a young woman in her twenties…

We know that strains in the relationship with mother throughout childhood and beyond are major contributing factors to our physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual health and wellbeing. Symptoms may include addiction, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, poor relationships, a lack of self-worth as well as numerous other concerns (Reference: Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes the Baby’s Brain)

Some of the negative effects that we may experience are:

  • Extremely high and unrealistic expectations of ourselves (this may have come from mother’s unlived dreams that she has projected onto us).
  • Tyrannized by a harsh inner critic (mothers often think they are protecting, helping or teaching through being controlling or critical – great idea but wrong intervention!).
  • A lack of self-acceptance, self-esteem, self-compassion and self-confidence (mother also lacks these and hasn’t for whatever reason been able to mirror these qualities to us).
  • We give more than we are able to receive through caretaking, rescuing or pleasing others (we learn this through watching mother act in this way – often as a way of getting her needs met).
  • We do too much because we believe this is the only way to get our needs met (mother is often over identified with masculine qualities, rather than having a healthy balance between masculine and feminine qualities).
  • We are increasingly angry because we don’t know how to meet our own needs or how to ask for what we need in relationships. We are unable to express our anger in a healthy and assertive way because as a child, it is safer to squash our anger and turn it inwards rather than risk being abandoned by mother. This becomes a life-long pattern whereby other people’s needs are put before our own (we’ve watched mother disown her anger).
  • We believe at the core that we are flawed (not good enough) and search outside ourselves to have our safety, love and worth needs met (think facebook updates and likes or searching in diets and magazines to find out who we are. This can be a result of narcissistic wounding – not being seen and heard by mother as a separate Divine being).
  • We downplay our beauty, intelligence, gifts, light and achievements because we fear betraying mother (who is more than likely a master at repressing her own sublime!).

As a psychotherapist for the last 15 years and a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being, I have witnessed the journey of many young women who enter therapy because of symptoms such as eating disorders or relationship problems. Of course we work on symptom relief but a huge chunk of the therapy is actually spent separating psychologically from mother (and father as well as other internalized imagoes).  This can be long-term and painful work as the daughter begins to wonder, ‘who am I, if I am not my mother?’, ‘who am I if I am not who my mother told me I am?’

It is grief work because it means letting go of the false identities we have been living out of as well as coming to the realisation that we cannot change mother into the mother we long for. It means accepting mother as she is. It means growing up and (re) mothering ourselves in a loving and nurturing way. In Jungian psychology, it means getting in touch with – and owning – our feminine aspects of the soul/psyche.

About how common the breakdown of a mother-daughter relationship is…

Many women have an extremely complex relationship with mother. It is not uncommon however, for the relationship to breakdown, heal and transform overtime.

About some of the reasons why this may have happened…

The most problematic mother-daughter relationships are for those who grow up with a mother who suffers with narcissistic wounding and who therefore parents with narcissistic tendencies.

If the mother has herself not been seen or heard and her own dependency, safety, love, worth, self-actualisation/realisation needs have not been met, she might:

  • be neglectful of the daughter’s needs
  • lack empathy and feel resentful, anger or rage at having to meet the needs of the daughter
  • have unrealistic expectations of her daughter
  • be controlling rather than supportive
  • over compensate by parenting in a smothering way
  • show her daughter off like a pretty doll to gain attention and praise from others
  • use the daughter to emotionally dump on/ to be her confidant
  • seek validation through her daughter’s successes
  • be jealous and envious of her daughter’s youth and beauty

In the few examples given above, it is more about the mother’s needs than the daughter’s – this can be highly toxic to the daughter’s sense of self.  Child psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott writes,

“The mother gazes at the baby in her arms, and the baby gazes at her mother’s face and finds herself therein…provided that the mother is really looking at the unique, small, helpless being and not projecting her own expectations, fears, and plans for the child. In that case, the child would find not herself in her mother’s face, but rather the mother’s own projections. This child would remain without a mirror, and for the rest of her life would be seeking this mirror in vain.”

We all long for our mother to meet us emotionally, but the mother who suffers with narcissism is incapable of doing so. We learn at an early age, adaptive and creative ways of getting our needs met; though pleasing, rebelling, academic achievements, becoming the sick child and so on. These patterns of being and behaviour often follow through into adulthood.

About how to heal from a difficult mother-daughter relationship…

The Mother/Daughter Relationship:

  • Like all relationships, both parties have a responsibility to work on themselves individually as well as on the relationship.
  • If the relationship is strained and both wish to continue to have a relationship with each other, choose to spend time doing something you both enjoy and set boundaries around rehashing old stuff – build a new relationship with each other. This becomes easier when we accept the other for who they are.
  • If the relationship is highly toxic for mother or daughter, I recommend seeing a very experienced family or couples’ therapist – at very least, a mediator to help you move forward. If one or the other isn’t willing to participate in therapy, it is not uncommon for there to be a period of estrangement. This usually allows the daughter to separate and individuate and whilst sometimes necessary, it can be a very painful process for both mother and daughter.

For Mother:

  • When you are concerned for your daughter, show vulnerability, concern and empathy rather than criticism. This builds connection rather than disconnection.
  • If your daughter is in therapy and wants to discuss your relationship – don’t be defensive, this deepens her wounds. Practice listening and ask her what she needs from you.
  • Value and encourage your daughter’s independence, autonomy and sense of self…always!
  • Work on (re)mothering yourself, building your own sense of self-worth and learn how to meet your needs in a healthy way, rather than relying on your daughter to meet your needs.

For Daughter (and therefore Mother!):

  • Take as much time as you need to get to know yourself fully. Who are you separate from your mother?
  • Find a good psychotherapist to help you explore your history – you will internalise the loving, accepting and compassionate therapeutic relationship – this can help you heal
  • What are the positive aspects that you have inherited from your mother? Practise a sense of gratitude for these (and towards your mother too)
  • What are the negative messages you have received from your mother? Practise empathy and compassion for yourself (and towards your mother too as she has also suffered)
  • Remember that your mother is a daughter too; she has struggled/is struggling just like you
  • Work on being assertive and learn how to set boundaries with your mother
  • Release any anger that has been turned inwards or outwards. Underlying anger is almost always pain. Listen to that quiet voice inside and practise self-compassion.
  • Your search for wholeness and happiness must begin inside. It is a cliché but healing happens when we learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally. To keep returning to mother (or anyone else) for acceptance, approval, compassion, kindness or love when mother has proven to be emotionally unavailable – will only set you up for more disappointment and this often deepens the wound
  • And finally… ageing and becoming a mother often helps to heal old wounds. When you become a mother, it is common to get in touch with a huge sense of empathy as you realise just how tough mothering can be!

NB: it is important that we don’t get caught in blaming or demonizing mothers; there are just as many complexities within father/daughter relationships. Notice that I don’t use the term ‘narcissistic mother’ – the reason for this is because at the core, mother is a human being, whole and unbroken – she herself has more than likely suffered with narcissistic wounding. The ‘narcissistic mother’ is only part of who she is. In saying all this, as mothers, we do need to recognise the profound impact that our wounding and parenting style have on our daughter’s sense of self and her ongoing relational, emotional, psychological, social, and spiritual health and well-being.

About Jodie

asseeninmaster2 (600x124)Sydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist + Eating Psychology Coach, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being. She spent time in the South of France training in mother-daughter relationships from an Indigenous, Jungian and Psycho-Spiritual perspective. Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.  Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!



SOUL sessions in Sydney or Worldwide via Skype

“A genuine odyssey is not about piling up experiences. It is a deeply felt, risky, unpredictable tour of the soul.” Thomas Moore

SOUL sessions in Sydney or worldwide via Skype
SOUL sessions can be structured in the following ways:
  • 1-1 in person or via Skype
  • in person with a small group of friends
  • as an intensive  – over one day or a weekend
What does a SOUL session include?

-You will be guided through a creative visualisation which could focus on one of the following:

  • a specific issue
  • vision, intentions and goals for the New Year
  • your life as a whole

-Some of the topics you might wish to explore but are not limited to are:

  • your relationship with partner, family, friends or colleagues
  • parenting
  • infertility
  • career
  • money and finances
  • food, eating, weight and body image
  • anxiety and/or depression
  • addictions: smartphone, internet, drugs, alcohol, food, sex, love or gambling
  • discovery and exploration of creativity/or a creative project
  • how to be present and authentic
  • letting go of busy and perfectionism
  • how to self-care
  • self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth
  • value, meaning and purpose in life
  • vision board for the New Year

-We will explore experientially how your life energy gets stuck in unhealthy patterns and what it is that sabotages or gets in your way of achieving your health and well-being, dreams and goals

-An experience of reflective meditation, a tool that you can continue to use at home

-Getting in touch with your intentions, new ideas, opportunities, hopes, dreams and passions

-Expressing your creativity through the use of art therapy – don’t worry, you don’t have to be Picasso!

-Fostering your authentic self and SOUL qualities such as self-acceptance, self-care, self-compassion and self-love

Who are SOUL sessions for?

These sessions are for you if you are looking to connect with yourself at a deeper level and wanting to become more present to your SOUL’s journey.

It is also for you if you have spent the last year (or longer!)…

  • Feeling stuck in a rut, lost or directionless in your life and/or career
  • Unhappy in your relationships with colleagues, friends, partner or family
  • Suffering with alcohol, eating and body image problems or other unhealthy life patterns
  • Feeling stressed out or overwhelmed with busyness and not allowing time for your true self to emerge
  • Struggling with a poor sense of self-esteem, confidence and worth and this is holding you back from living the life you dream of
  • Setting unrealistic goals, focusing on the superficial and wanting a deeper exploration of that which your deeper Self truly longs for
What are the benefits of a SOUL session?

After your 2 hour SOUL session you will take home awareness and tools to help you with:

  • Healing and freedom from your past
  • Connecting with a sense of value, meaning and purpose
  • Recognising and building upon your existing strengths
  • Learning how to nourish your body/feelings/mind/sexuality/spirituality
  • Building a tool-box of coping, life, mindfulness and self-care skills
  • Making healthy long-lasting changes
  • Changing unhealthy thought patterns
  • Journaling and symbolic artwork as tools for self-expression
  • Unleashing your creativity
What women are saying about their SOUL sessions with Jodie

“5 Stars”

“Amazing, I’m so glad I came”

“It has brought me closer to my true self”

“Not at all what I was expecting but wow”

“I am leaving with a sense of purpose”

“I realise how little compassion I have for myself, working on this is my first step”

“It was great to gain a wider perspective of my life’s journey”

“I wanted to get in touch with my Higher Self and I have – thank you!”

“I feel like I am leaving with some practical steps to change my current situation”

“So powerful, I wasn’t expecting this”

“Instead of compulsive eating, I am taking away that I need to bring more joy and pleasure into my life”

“I am leaving with some great resources and pointers for moving in a healthier direction”

“I have never seen myself in this way before”

“I wanted to get in touch with my Higher Self and I did!”

“I really loved the visualisation – it brought a whole new perspective to issues I have felt really stuck with”

“I am so happy to have had an experience of psychosynthesis. I did my foundation year nearly 20 years ago and I have missed this depth of experience”

Upcoming dates and availability – Book your session now – this year 40 out of 45 booked out!

If the date you require is taken, please email me as I now have space on Friday during school hours.


Saturday 14  – 1.30-3.30 Booked Out

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Allambie Heights in person or via Skype (please note Skype are only 1-1 not for small groups)

Public transport is available via the 280 bus from Chatswood to Warringah Mall or the 142 from Manly to the Skyline shops.


Art materials and a journal to take home (not available for Skype)


I will email you a questionnaire and provide you with a short reading prior to your session

SOUL Session Packages

For individuals

1 x 2 hour SOUL session = $299.00

1 x 2 hour SOUL session and 2 follow up 50 minute sessions = $579.00 (follow-up sessions can be taken separately or as an intensive over one day or a weekend)

1 x 2 hour SOUL session and 5 follow up 50 minute sessions = $949.00 (follow-up sessions can be taken separately or as an intensive over one day or a weekend)

For groups of up to 3 friends

1 x 2 hour SOUL session for a group of up to 3 friends and 2 follow up individual 50 minute sessions = $480.00 pp (follow-up sessions can be taken separately or as an intensive over one day or a weekend)

1 x 2 hour SOUL session for a group of up to 3 friends and 5 follow up individual 50 minute sessions = $850.00 pp (follow-up sessions can be taken separately or as an intensive over one day or a weekend)

*Because these sessions are in high demand, payment is required on booking to hold your space. Credit card payments now available. *

Book your SOUL session now!

About Jodie

as-seen-in-december-16-pinkSydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist, Eating Psychology Specialist + Transformational Life-Coach, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being.

Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.
Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!
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Saturday afternoon SOUL sessions in Sydney or Worldwide via Skype

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 About Jodie

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Sydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist, Counsellor, Eating Psychology Specialist and Transformational Life-Coach Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being.

Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.
Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!

Let your light shine and live the life you have always dreamed of! Contact me now to book your first appointment.