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Vision Board

Create your 2015 goals with SOUL women’s workshop

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Come and join me for an afternoon of creating your

2015 goals with SOUL!

We will spend the afternoon together:
  • Connecting with other like-minded, soulful women
  • Spending time guided through a creative visualization focused on where you want to go with a specific issue, 2015 or your life as a whole
  • Looking at how your life energy gets stuck in unhealthy patterns and what it is that sabotages or gets in your way of achieving your goals
  • Experiencing reflective meditation, a tool that you can continue to use at home
  • Getting in touch with new ideas, opportunities, hopes, dreams and passions
  • Expressing your creativity through the use of art and craft materials (don’t worry, you don’t have to be Picasso!)
  • Creating a vision board or art journal with SOUL for 2015
  • Fostering your true self and qualities such as self-acceptance, self-care, self-compassion and self-love
  • Listening to music that moves the SOUL
  • Journaling
  • Enjoying a wholesome, homemade afternoon tea

At the end of this workshop you will go home with a solid plan for putting your SOUL goals into action grounded in value, meaning and purpose.

Who is this workshop for?

This workshop is for women and is perfect for anyone who wants to spend an afternoon connecting with like-minded, soulful women.

It is also for you if you have spent 2014 (or longer!)…

  • Feeling stuck in a rut, lost or directionless in your life and/or career
  • Unhappy in your relationships with colleagues, friends, partner or family
  • Suffering with alcohol, eating and body image problems or other unhealthy life patterns
  • Feeling stressed out or overwhelmed with busyness and not allowing time for achieving your SOUL goals
  • Struggling with a poor sense of self-esteem, confidence and worth and this is holding you back from living the life you dream of
  • Setting unrealistic goals, focusing on the superficial and wanting a deeper exploration of that which your deeper Self truly longs for
Date

Saturday 17th January, 2015

(Don’t panic, I’ll be sending you some reflections beforehand for the start of the new year 😉 )

Time

1pm to 5pm

Venue

Manly, Northern Beaches, Sydney.

Inclusions

Art and craft materials

Wholesome, homemade afternoon tea

Preparation

Please bring with you some images/magazines to cut out pictures for your vision board and your journal if you use one

I will email you some information to read for reflection prior to the workshop

Investment

$149.00

Contact me now to book your place and to start living the life you have always dreamed of!

I look forward to working with you. x Jodie

“The soul, or psyche, is not interested in success as much as it is interested in truth” – Lara Owen

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Sydney Soul-Centred Life-Coach, Counsellor and Psychotherapist Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being.

Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women transform their lives.

She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.

Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!

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How to create a vision board

Vision BoardI am a massive fan of vision boards and use them often in my own life and with clients. Here are some tips for creating your own.

How to create a vision board

A vision board is a great tool to assist with:    

New Year’s resolutions

Intentions

That which brings us value, meaning and purpose in life

Desired spiritual qualities such as compassion, love, empathy and will

New creative ideas, opportunities, hopes, dreams, passions and visions

Healthier relationships, habits and behaviours

About vision boards

Martha Beck calls vision boards ‘a graphic illustration of our hopes and dreams’. Dreaming alone however is not enough. They need to be created and used within a balanced context.

Some of us are naturally ‘dreamers’ and some of us ‘doers’. If we want to reach our goals and bring our visions into being, it means that we need to create a balance between ‘being’ (with our loving, creative, intuitive, spiritual and authentic self) and ‘doing’ (by putting our plans into action by engaging our will).

Before you create your vision board

  • I love this quote by psychotherapist  Lara Owen – it is a good context to hold:

“The soul, or psyche, is not interested in success as much as it is interested in truth.”

Creating a vision board

1.Find a sacred space and spend some time in reflection via

  • Meditation
  • Visualisation
  • Night or day dreaming
  • Journaling
  • Movement

2.Some suggested topics for reflection

  • What is it that brings value, meaning and purpose to my life?
  • Where am I right now?
  • How can I be more present to my life?
  • Where would I like to be?
  • What changes would I like to make?
  • Who are my role models and what draws me to them? How can I own these qualities in myself?
  • How can I create more balance in my life? (Balance wheel: Career, relationships, family, personal and spiritual development, health and well-being, finances, passions and hobbies)
  • Perhaps I have some unfinished business that I would like to carry over from last year?
  • What are my short, medium and long term goals?
  • How might I sabotage my goals?
  • What do I need to nurture in myself to reach my goals?
  • Are these goals what I really need?
  • Are my goals made from the authentic self or the false self?
  • What spiritual quality do I need to foster? (Love, empathy, compassion, will etc)
  • How will I put my visions into action?
  • What are my next steps?
  • What medium for my vision board feels right?
  • How can I stay present to this process?

3.Allow images to come, try not to judge them. Pay attention to your dreams

4.Choose the medium that speaks to you. If you spend a lot of time online, perhaps try a handmade version. Some examples are:

  • Cardboard
  • Corkboard
  • Journal
  • Portable cards
  • Decorative box
  • Online using Pinterest
  • Phone or i-Pad app

5.Gather your supplies. Try using different textures and colours

  • Cardboard, journal, blackboard, corkboard, box etc
  • A variety of magazines (home, women’s, travel, food etc)
  • Print inspirational images from online
  • Photos
  • Art work cards or personal artwork
  • A variety of pens or pastels
  • Inspirational quotes
  • Role models
  • Glue, tacks or decorative sticky tape

6.Create your vision board

  • Schedule in a whole day to create your vision board
  • Allow plenty of time to create your board. There is no need to rush if you don’t finish it in one go… it can be created over time
  • As you create your vision board, notice and pay attention to your feelings. Welcome them like an old friend who needs care and attention. Be kind and take care of them.
  • Stay present to the process as you create your board

7.Place your vision board somewhere you can see it

8.Be with your vision board

  • Engage and check in with your board regularly

9.Planning and action

  • Think about making an action plan regarding how you will bring your vision into being
  • What changes do you need to make in order to reach your goals?
  • Take small steps in creating your vision – you may want to focus on one area of your life at a time
  • When we choose one path we often have to deal with loss – how will you manage losses? Eg. In order to grow your self-worth, you may need to say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship
  • Affirm your choices often

10.Be kind, loving, compassionate and accepting of yourself

  •  If things aren’t moving as quickly as you would like, don’t be hard on yourself. This only serves to sabotage your goals
  • It is ok for your vision to change. Let anything go that no longer serves you or that doesn’t feel right
  • Creating a vision board isn’t all about love and light. Spending time with our hopes, dreams and visions can stir up the pain and suffering of an unlived life. We may come across the realisation that we have continued to betray ourselves long after any kind of crisis, trauma or abuse has taken place. We do this by neglecting ourselves or by using ‘stuff’ to take us away from our pain and suffering. It is important to stay with this suffering, get to know it and learn new ways to self sooth and care for ourselves
  • If you are struggling to stay motivated, find a qualified counsellor or psychotherapist to support you on your journey – it really can make all the difference!

Let me help you reach your goals. Book in for one of my super popular ***SOUL sessions*** or ***Transform Your Relationship With Food, Body & Soul™ *** packages

About Jodie

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Sydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist + Eating Psychology Specialist, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being.

Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.
Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!

Let me help you heal – sign up here to be on my list and be the first to receive my new ebook as soon as it is released in 2017.

How to stick with our New Year’s resolutions – it takes more than strong will!

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As one year ends and another starts – it is a universal time for reflecting on the past, the present and the future. Many of us are making New Year’s resolutions, setting intentions, reflecting on that which brings us value, meaning and purpose in life, fostering new qualities and pondering how to be with – and bring into being – new ideas, opportunities, hopes, dreams, passions and visions for the year ahead.   It is also a time to consider making healthy changes and focusing on redirecting our energy away from cycles of that which no longer serves us.

In ‘The Body Project’, Joan Brumberg writes that New Year’s resolutions have changed over time. Historically, when young women made resolutions, they focused more on good work, such as a resolve to improve internal character and to become less self-centred and more helpful.  Body image, diet, and desired material possessions were rarely mentioned. Increasingly, many New Year’s resolutions have tended to focus more towards the external; often being superficial and appearance orientated. The typical young woman’s resolution is now focused on good looks: improving body, hairstyle, makeup, and clothing. This is not only typical of young women but for many people.

Rather than setting intentions from this place, if we want to make long lasting change in our lives, we need to redirect our focus from the external, to becoming more present to our internal world and committing wholeheartedly to our authentic self.

Which part of us is making the New Year’s resolution – the false self or the authentic self?

Typically, intentions made about our appearance and desires are ego centred and come from what we call in psychology – the false self. Making unconscious choices and setting intentions from this part of ourselves is bound to result in failure and disappointment.

For example:

If we are caught in a cycle of yo yo dieting, binge eating, or over exercising we might make the following New Year’s resolution:

I look fat and fat is bad. I will stick to my diet, I will exercise every day and I will lose 10 kgs in 5 weeks. Then I will be happy!

Someone caught in a cycle of thinking that ‘things’ will make them happy might have the following New Year’s resolution:

I am going to read ‘The Secret’ and follow the ‘Law of Attraction’ so that I can get out of debt, get rich and buy whatever I want. Then I will be happy.

Resolutions made from the false self serve to fuel the ego, not the authentic self. In order to stick to these kind of resolutions, we often employ and tyrannize ourselves with a harsh inner critic or inner perfectionist – both fuelled by a ‘Victorian’ and punitive style of will. There are two major problems here. Firstly, the goal might be what we want but is it what we need? Secondly, when we find ourselves losing commitment, we lack empathy and compassion for ourselves, resulting in feeling like a failure (once again!).

When making New Year’s resolutions, it is wise to consider, ‘is this really what I need right now?’ If we look at both of the above from the authentic self’s perspective, it is more productive to redirect the focus from a false self desire  – to be skinny or rich – towards a focus on building a strong sense of self-worth.  A side effect of having good self-worth is often a change in career where we begin to earn what we are worth and participate in a more balanced way of eating and exercising because we care about our health and well-being.

If we are experiencing an existential or other life crisis – using food, shopping, relationships or other addictive substances to make us feel better, may in fact exacerbate the crisis. Filling emotional, existential or spiritual needs with superficial and material ones will not work – they only postpone the existing problem. In today’s society, we have more than we need and yet many of us are still unhappy. Buying more or shifting the furniture around – are not the answers. Being with and exploring our suffering is.

For those of us that are free enough to make New Year’s resolutions from the authentic self, we need to consider that whilst one part of us might plan to find balance with our eating, drinking or spending for well-being reasons – there may be another part of us that can’t yet say no to food, alcohol or spending. We need to get to know the conflicting parts inside of us as well as their motivations in order to make healthy long lasting change.

Change requires more than strong will

When we make New Year’s resolutions, we often believe that all it takes is strong will or will power. Will power is often viewed as having self-control over our undesirable habits and behaviours. A thorough exploration of the will has been largely neglected in modern psychology. Roberto Assagioli, a leading influence in the fields of humanistic and transpersonal psychology suggests that we need to develop the various types of will (1999):

Strong will – this is the will that most of us are familiar with. If you feel that you are lacking strong will, try this visualisation: Imagine yourself being in possession of strong will. What does it look like? What does strong will mean to you? See yourself walking with a firm and determined step, acting in every situation with decision. Spend some time each day visualising yourself in this way.

Skilful will – is about developing the strategy which is most effective and which involves the greatest economy of effort, rather than the strategy which is most direct and obvious. For example, by focusing and developing our self-worth, we feel better about ourselves. We are then free to choose work that pays more and we eat in a more balanced way. Overall, we make healthier choices which are more likely to bring about long-lasting change. A good practise here is the development of a loving internal voice instead of a tyrannical, harsh and critical one.   Ultimately, the development of skilful will requires us to have good psychological hygiene by ridding ourselves of those things which are toxic to our psychological well-being.

Goodwill – or the ‘will to do good’. Historically psychology has focused on the individual. We need to consider that each of us is an important part of the whole. Assagioli suggests that anyone who fails to take their relationships with others and the whole into consideration will inevitably arouse reactions and conflicts. These often defeat our intended goals. He recommends that we discipline ourselves by choosing aims that are consistent with the welfare of others and the common good of humanity. Good will is ultimately about eliminating selfishness and self-centeredness by practising understanding, acceptance, empathy and love for ourselves and others.

(NB: if we have neglected ourselves by people pleasing, rescuing or caretaking others it may be important to spend some time learning to say no and redirecting our care inwards. This should always be placed within the context of building a healthy sense of self as part and service of, the wider whole).

Transpersonal will

Transpersonal will is an expression of the transpersonal, higher or spiritual Self. This will comes in the form of a ‘pull’ or a ‘call’. Beauty, altruism and selfless devotion to a cause such as charity, vegetarianism or caring for the environment can be expressions of transpersonal will. This is also about transcendence and self-realisation. The practise here is about shushing the busy mind and listening for that quiet, soulful, authentic voice inside. Heed the call, the psyche has a habit of calling and pulling us towards growth and realisation. The call or the pull can come with gentle persistence or may arrive at our door in the form of a peak experience or a transformational life crisis.

Love and will

Achieving our goals and making healthy life choices requires a balance of love (feminine energy) and will (masculine energy).

Assagioli writes, “The danger of untempered will is that it lacks heart. We see, and used to see especially in Victorian times, the operation of a cold, stern, and even cruel will. On the other hand, love without will can make an individual…over emotional, and ineffectual…One of the principal causes of today’s disorders is the lack of love on the part of those who have will and the lack of will in those who are good and loving. This points unmistakably to the urgent need for integration, the unification of love [feminine energy] and will [masculine energy](1999).”

Above we looked at the different types of will. But what about love?

Love for oneself – in pursuit of our goals, are we being loving and kind or are we being puritanical and tyrannical towards ourselves?

Love for other human beings – in pursuit of our goals, are we being kind and loving in our relationships with partners, family, friends and colleagues?

Love for the environment – in pursuit of our goals, are we being kind and loving to the environment and other living creatures?

Assagioli suggests that to love well – it calls for “all that is demanded by the practice of any art, indeed of any human activity, namely, an adequate measure of discipline, patience and persistence. All of these we have seen to be qualities of the will.”

In order to bring about change, reach our New Year’s resolutions, find value meaning and purpose in our lives, foster new qualities and bring into being, new ideas, opportunities, hopes, dreams, passions and visions we need to cultivate our capacity and find balance between love (being) and will (doing). This requires us to have a vision for the future but to stay present to the process and the deeper essence of who we are – the authentic self.

Coming soon: Creating a vision board

Let me help you reach your goals. Book in for one of my super popular ***SOUL sessions*** or ***Transform Your Relationship With Food, Body & Soul™ *** packages.

About Jodie

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Sydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist + Eating Psychology Specialist, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being.

Over the last 15 years, Jodie has helped 100s of women to transform their lives. She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.
Jodie is passionate about putting the soul back into therapy!

Let me help you heal – sign up here to be on my list and be the first to receive my new ebook as soon as it is released in 2017. 

 

 

Let your light shine and live the life you have always dreamed of! Contact me now to book your first appointment.